~When Love Walks Out~
Sometimes when a person falls out of love there are no warning signs. It just seems to turn off as quickly as it came on...The other person is always left to gather up the pieces of their heart with so many huge question marks that may never get answered like "When did you stop loving me?", "What did I do wrong?" "Why didn't I notice?".
Then sometimes when we look back signs do appear. Little things, big things, things that seemed normal at the time but now make sense that were part of a deeper meaning. Maybe he stopped trying hard. There were no more early morning or late night chats. Suddenly he has excuses for why his once unlimited attention is now being swallowed up many other things. And its not as if you wanted him to be at your beckon call, but you wanted to feel special again. You want what he gave you to begin with or at least a fraction of it. Why is it that we always do the worst thing, we blame ourselves.
Maybe he thinks he loves you still but doesn't feel the fight inside of him. When he used to say he would walk a thousand miles to be with you now he can't seem to figure out how to walk a block. Perhaps all the things he loved about you before he doesn't like anymore.Your (cute) crazy ways, the way you need him to tell you he loves you and a daily reminder that he wants to be with you..Its sad because often the person falling out of love can't help it but the person who is still loving just as much as ever has to try to come to terms with being left. Its like they need to deal with death and honestly, it is very much a loss---The death of a relationship. You have to get used to waking up with no hope of talking to him. You have to find away not to call him everytime something good or bad happens. And somehow, someday, you have to stop loving him so much. And yet we all know, true love doesn't ever end. We just find a way to push the hurt and loss to the back to make room for hope...If we ever allow ourselves to hope ever again.
It seems with some people that all they want is the chase. They want to pursue you, fight to get your attention and work to be the most important person in your life. If they can get a hold of the you the fun seems to be gone and attention dies off. Its sad. Love, real love, wouldn't find excuses or better things to do. Real love might be frightened for the changes coming but the excitement would overshadow the fear.
The end of a relationship, even an unhealthy and bad one, is difficult. It is something that leaves a gash on our heart. If the next heartbreak happens before we heal totally the cut will take so long to heal. Its worst though when the person who falls out of love doesn't say a thing---They don't try to fix it or end it so you are going along fine when it suddenly occurs to you that he isn't looking for you or putting his hand on yours anymore. He isn't dedicating songs to you and you never catch him looking at you like he used to. I would rather have the man tell me its over, or even that he is having trouble feeling that love, then to have him go along pretending that everything is okay. I've had 10 years of just okay...I don't want to be lied to like that ever again.
Then sometimes when we look back signs do appear. Little things, big things, things that seemed normal at the time but now make sense that were part of a deeper meaning. Maybe he stopped trying hard. There were no more early morning or late night chats. Suddenly he has excuses for why his once unlimited attention is now being swallowed up many other things. And its not as if you wanted him to be at your beckon call, but you wanted to feel special again. You want what he gave you to begin with or at least a fraction of it. Why is it that we always do the worst thing, we blame ourselves.
Maybe he thinks he loves you still but doesn't feel the fight inside of him. When he used to say he would walk a thousand miles to be with you now he can't seem to figure out how to walk a block. Perhaps all the things he loved about you before he doesn't like anymore.Your (cute) crazy ways, the way you need him to tell you he loves you and a daily reminder that he wants to be with you..Its sad because often the person falling out of love can't help it but the person who is still loving just as much as ever has to try to come to terms with being left. Its like they need to deal with death and honestly, it is very much a loss---The death of a relationship. You have to get used to waking up with no hope of talking to him. You have to find away not to call him everytime something good or bad happens. And somehow, someday, you have to stop loving him so much. And yet we all know, true love doesn't ever end. We just find a way to push the hurt and loss to the back to make room for hope...If we ever allow ourselves to hope ever again.
It seems with some people that all they want is the chase. They want to pursue you, fight to get your attention and work to be the most important person in your life. If they can get a hold of the you the fun seems to be gone and attention dies off. Its sad. Love, real love, wouldn't find excuses or better things to do. Real love might be frightened for the changes coming but the excitement would overshadow the fear.
The end of a relationship, even an unhealthy and bad one, is difficult. It is something that leaves a gash on our heart. If the next heartbreak happens before we heal totally the cut will take so long to heal. Its worst though when the person who falls out of love doesn't say a thing---They don't try to fix it or end it so you are going along fine when it suddenly occurs to you that he isn't looking for you or putting his hand on yours anymore. He isn't dedicating songs to you and you never catch him looking at you like he used to. I would rather have the man tell me its over, or even that he is having trouble feeling that love, then to have him go along pretending that everything is okay. I've had 10 years of just okay...I don't want to be lied to like that ever again.
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