When Love Is Selfish

Sometimes more like a death than a beginning,
Love can be all consuming, gluttonous and selfish,
It comes in offering to dance with the heart
but when it finally leaves
it has stolen in its teeth the muscle along with the health and sanity of the mind..

Often full of pride and unsure of its own voice
Love can move along quietly and shy~
It can come in from the cold and within the night barely whisper its existence
yet stomp on a heart with its exit.

It is not a hole one falls into or a crack we trip over
and yet we speak of Love as "falling",
as a lovely,serendipitous accident
or a graceful tumble into life-long emotional love giving.
It is one act, one moment of almost unbearable need.
It is a race of ohIhopehe/shemissesme
andcan'tlivewithoutme
made romantic with flowers and dates.
Then the time of chase is over when one of us is caught
and its the ending of everything
that is control and calm
to keep up in the crazy world of emotional tangoing,
One of us always has to give up more control,
lose more of their heart to the other...
It is truly the giving up of ones self preservation,
coupled with the foolishness of sharing every secret one holds
then leaving oneself empty
and trading of all of these secrets.
When two people meet and selfishly want their own
happiness,
they say "I love you...Please keep my heart safe
and never betray my dirty secrets."

It is then only a race to see who can love better
longer
without sharing with others the partners
dirty laundry
and selfish heart.
And "I Do" is nothing more than
I do promise to keep you as happy
as I want you to be.
Until someone else comes along and makes
me feel happier, more needed and loved
I promise to love you and no one else.
Love is selfish,love is the absence of everything safe,real and honest.

~Stacy J Roosa
8/11/2010

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