~If You Turn On A T.V. Open Too Your Eyes~

I have a friend whose husband leaves his porn magazines all over the house. Just to use the bathroom a person, including his own kids(and anyone else who visits)can find 3 dozen hard core porn magazines....Imagine what his kids must think about women after seeing them spread out (literally) all over the pages. When I asked him why he would do that he told me that its HIS house and screw anyone who doesn't like it. Which leads me to this...Some people say that us American's are too closed off and private when it comes to the subject of sex.. That if we weren't so embarrassed by our own sexuality that we'd have less teen pregnancies and problems in our marriages because sex and having many partners wouldn't be so taboo...I will be honest, I am NOT any kind of expert when it comes to sex BUT as a parent of two teenagers, the day that we are NOT grossed out by what Miley Cyrus did or what Lady Gaga does, will be the day I know we've become too desensitized to sex and lost. I am grateful in a way for what Miley did at the awards show because it reminds us that we parents HAVE to check in on what our kids are seeing and what "entertainers" they may be following. I don't want my kids to think that sex is something to take lightly or that dressing sexy at such a young age is okay. I myself have become part of the problem because I assumed that Miley was still "Hannah Montana" and that her own parents would not want their little girl to be a gross testimate and sell out to the industry's need to sell sex (and many viewers need to see it). If I don't make sure that what my kids are watching who will? TV has become one big sex-filled action thriller. I have awesome kids but they are only human. I cannot control what they see at all times of the day (including at a friends house) but I will continue to have conversations with them about what they might see in this world and how they feel about it.

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